Cyber Bullying

Facts and information on how to prevent cyber bullying:

In recognition of National School Safety Week's focus on online bullying, the following tip sheet is an example of the type of information available to parents on the ERASE Bullying website currently being developed.

Cyber bullying facts:

  • Cyber bullying occurs when a child is targeted through technology with the purpose of being harassed, embarrassed, threatened or hurt by another child.
  • It is done on the Internet and mobile phones through text messaging, instant messaging, social media sites, chat rooms, websites and email.
  • Incidents of cyber bullying can involve images intended to hurt or embarrass, cruel rumours, hacking into personal sites, and web pages created to target an individual.
  • Given the online nature, a single incident can be posted, reposted and viewed by thousands of people in a few seconds.
  • Cyber bullies are often able to remain anonymous, hiding behind false online identities, and online activities such as forums are less likely to be supervised by an adult.

Signs a child is being cyber bullied:

  • Changes to their pattern of computer or mobile phone usage.
  • Mood changes during or after using the computer. May appear anxious, depressed, irritable or fearful when online.
  • Tries to avoid discussions or questions about their online activities.
  • May complain of feeling unwell, have trouble sleeping or get nightmares.
  • Low self-esteem and putting themselves down.
  • Decreased interest in usual activities, school performance and social situations.
  • Threatening to hurt themselves or others.
  • May appear isolated from their peer group.

Signs a child could be cyber bullying another child:

  • Long hours spent online and secretive about online activities.
  • Appears agitated or excited when online.
  • Uses multiple online accounts or has various online identities.
  • Becomes upset or angry if he or she cannot use the computer.
  • Aggressive with family and friends; holds a positive view of aggression and has friends who bully and are aggressive.
  • Appears unconcerned for others' feelings and does not recognize the impact of his or her behaviour.
  • If you spot any of the warning signs and believe you know a child who is being bullied or is a bully, encourage him or her to unplug and to foster their offline friendships. Teaching all children to be part of the solution is the key to preventing cyber bullying.

How children can prevent cyber bullying:

  • Refuse to participate: Don't write it; don't read it; don't share it.
  • Work with other students and school officials to raise awareness and develop rules around cyber bullying.
  • Create flyers or build online forums to educate and share anti bullying messages and strategies.
  • Don't allow your friends to post personal photos or videos of others.
  • Be an example to your friends. If you wouldn't say it in person, don't say it online.
  • Speak out against cyber bullying and stand up for students who are bullied.
  • If you know someone who is being bullied or is a bully, tell an adult.

 

This information is from the Provicial Government of BC. 

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I Am Being Bullied

Rumours, gossip, threats, insults, cruelty, violence

- these are all things that young people shouldn’t have to deal with, but do. We use the term ‘bullying’ to describe this kind of behaviour. Other people might call it ‘harassment,’ ‘abuse,’ ‘meanness’ or ‘drama’.

Whatever you choose to call it, bullying is very harmful
and happens all too often.

Being the target of bullying can be hurtful, scary, and isolating. It can also be upsetting to be a witness to bullying. Even though it’s difficult, remember: you’re not alone, and there are ways you can keep bullying out of your life.

In this section, you’ll find out more about what bullying is and some strategies that can help you if you are being bullied at school or in your community. You’ll also learn about what to do if you’ve witnessed bullying, or if you are bullying others.

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I am Bullying Others

If you think you are bullying others

If you are thinking about changing the way you treat your peers, you’re on the right track.

Just acknowledging that you have a problem is the first step towards taking responsibility and changing your behaviour.

Here are some things you should know about bullying:

  • It is everyone’s right to be treated with respect and to feel safe. Just because you don’t like someone doesn’t mean it’s alright to abuse or harass them.
  • There are different kinds of bullying, from physical bullying (hitting, shoving, and so on) to verbal and emotional bullying (calling names, teasing, or excluding someone). Sometimes, verbal bullying can have the most serious effects. All bullying is wrong. It’s never OK.
  • Effects of bullying include depression, hopelessness, anxiety, and school and relationship problems. It’s not just the kids who get bullied who experience negative effects – it’s witnesses and people who bully, too.
  • Many times, people bully someone who has bullied them first, or who they think deserves it in some way. But no matter what someone has done to you, it’s never OK to try to hurt them on purpose.
  • You can change! Lots of people who bully others learn how to behave differently, and have healthy friendships with other people. Help is out there. Counsellors at Kids Help Phone are here to talk – we won’t judge you or turn you away. Call 1-800-668-6868 or visit Ask Us Online to find out how you can take steps to improve your actions.

What should I do?

If you want to change your behaviour, it’s a good idea to get help. Talk to a trusted adult, someone at school like a guidance counsellor, or call us at Kids Help Phone (1-800-668-6868) to find out where you can find someone to help you.

This online workbook can also help you work through how to stop bullying others.

Group bullying

A lot of bullying occurs in group situations, where three or more people bully one or two others. Sometimes, you might be involved in group bullying without really knowing who started it, or why you’re doing it. You might be following someone else’s lead, or you might find it just “happens” when a certain group is together.

If you’re involved in group bullying, and want to stop, good for you!

Here are some things you can try:

The next time your group is bullying others, try walking away,
or telling the others to stop.

You can also try talking to others in the group once the bullying episode is over. Explain you don’t want to be involved anymore, and tell them that the next time it happens, you’ll take a stand.
A counsellor at Kids Help Phone (1-800-668-6868) can help you brainstorm ways to put an end to group bullying.
 

The information on this page is from the Kids Help Phone.

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